Do you remember that movie? With Tom and Nicole, when she actually had some flesh on her bones?
Joshua and I watched that movie this weekend. I wanted to give him an opportunity to become ever more comfortable with the idea and world of BDSM. Although this movie is not so much about BDSM, it does show a very fun aspect of the alternative sexual lifestyle, that consisting of the ritual involved in a scene. After we had watched the movie, he surprised me and turned to ask me my thoughts on the movie. I told him that I love the idea of using someone and never knowing who they are. He said he thought he would be more comfortable without having to show his face, that a mask might make him more willing to both submit OR dominate. Is was an intersting conversation and few key points came to the front.
Let me explain: Over the few months or so, I have been speaking with a sub male, with Joshua being aware of it and we had gotten to a point of wanting to meet the male. What especially turned me on about the situation was the reality of tying someone up in bondage, being able to feminize and humiliate a man, and eventually… the prospect of having him service me with his tongue while my husband fucked me. Joshua was not as into it, of course why would he be, but I think he liked the idea of his wife dominating another man, and he seemed very pleased when I told him about the few scenes we could do. One in particular where I would tease the sub man and then laugh as he became hard, his hands tied so he could not touch himself. I would then fuck my husband and laugh at the sub. Joshua and I talked about the rules, he was not to touch me until Joshua was comfortable, and I could not play without Joshua being present. Joshua also said he would prefer we stick to sissy play, bondage and discipline play until he said otherwise. He was most comfortable with the idea of me ordering the sub to do something, be it tie his cock up or clean the shelves wearing womens panties, versus me “doing” things to the sub. Making his punishments or play be self-inflicted. I think it was a good compromise..
Well like I said before, the male was too scared to show so that cancelled that. Either way, Joshua and I had been looking for a couple to play with.
The movie that we watched helped launch another of our open conversations. We talked about rules for the couple swap situation. After a little while, Joshua says, “I just don’t think I would be comfortable yet with let XYZ touch you…” I kind of gave him a glance and I said, “What makes you think another man is going to let you fuck his wife and not get to fuck yours in return??” He got this look of realization over his face like “Oh yah!!! I didn’t think of that!!” So I said “Do we need to just find a girl first? Where we could both take care of you and you be the only guy?” He said he had thought of that but that it was hard to find a single women who just wanted a couple. It’s true, woman generally are looking for straight man on woman, man man on woman or woman on woman… The rare jewel is the woman who isn’t bi and just wants to help another woman please the same man…..
Anyways, I think Joshua and I had a very honest conversation about everything and we are going to try to meet with Couple X this weekend.
